How do you know when it’s the right time to propose? It’s a momentous occasion in any couple’s relationship, so it’s important to make sure that the timing is just right. When it comes to popping the question, there are a lot of crucial factors to take into consideration, such as how long you have been together for, how well you get on, and whether you both have similar plans for the future that would contribute to a happy marriage. Above all, however, you need to be sure that your partner is ‘the one’ – can you see yourself easily spending the rest of your life with her?
Proposing too early, or for all the wrong reasons, can bring about a lot of disastrous consequences that you’d want to avoid in your life as much as possible. So, before you start engagement ring shopping, there are a few important questions to ask yourself first to make sure that you’re ready and that’s you’re making the right decision. So, what are the signs that you’re ready to pop the question? Let’s find out.
Sign #1. You’re Already Like a Married Couple:
There are many different signs to look out for that indicate that it’s maybe time to think about tying the knot, but perhaps the biggest one is simply that you’re already like a married couple! In fact, if it wasn’t for the fact that you don’t wear rings and haven’t had a wedding yet, you may as well be married. You’ve been living together for a while; perhaps you even have children! When people meet you, they usually assume that you’re married until you tell them otherwise. If this is the case, then what are you waiting for? If your relationship together is happy and fulfilling and you don’t want things to change, then there’s a good chance that you’re ready to finally make it official and take the next step.
Sign #2. You Have Similar Future Plans:
When you get married, you’re basically asking your partner to share the rest of their life with you in an intimate way. Married couples live together and play a massive part in each other’s life choices and decisions, so before you decide whether it’s the right time to pop the question and start shopping for a stunning solitaire engagement ring, it’s important to make sure that your future plans are aligned. If you have been in a relationship with your partner for a while, then there’s a good chance that you’ve already had ‘the talk’ about the future; maybe you’ve already discussed topics such as having children, travel plans, and even places that you’d like to move to in the future. Asking somebody to marry you whose plans don’t match up to yours can only cause distress and problems for you in the future; you can’t expect somebody to back down from their plans for you, just like you probably wouldn’t change yours. If you disagree on big future life decisions such as starting a family, then it’s perhaps not the best time to ask your partner to marry you unless you can compromise on it.
Sign #3. There’s a Distinct Lack of Drama:
All relationships go through their problems and issues; if you don’t have the odd disagreement with your partner, then there’s probably something wrong! Disagreeing on things and discussing your differences is all part of a healthy relationship, however, it’s the way that the two of you deal with this that counts. If you’re planning to pop the question, then you should think about the drama in your relationship. If every slight disagreement turns into somebody slamming a door and storming out, then you should re-think whether you’re happy to deal with this for the rest of your life. Chances are, it won’t change after the wedding, and the drama could even ruin your marriage and cause further heartache down the line. On the other hand, if your disagreements are always dealt with amicably and respectfully, you talk things through and try to understand things from each others point of view before coming to a joint decision that works for both of you, you’ve got something that’s worth hanging onto.
Sign #4. You Know Each Other Inside-Out:
When you get married, you’re committing to spending the rest of your life with a person – that’s a massive decision! So, before you decide that it’s time to pop the question, you should ask yourself honestly, how well do you know your partner and how well do they know you? Bear in mind that it’s not just the big things that you should be aware of, you should also know little things about them, such as how they take their coffee, what shows they like to watch on Netflix, and what their favorite meal is. It may seem like minor information, but if you’re unaware of even the smallest of things about your partner or feel that they don’t know you at all, you should question how your marriage is going to work. The most successful marriages involve couples who know each other as well as they know themselves. Of course, this may not be you right now, but a big sign that you’re ready to propose is that you’re willing to learn everything about your partner and are comfortable enough to share everything about yourself with them.
Sign #5. You Have Good Communication:
Successful marriages are built on a basis of great communication. If your partner never tells you what they are up to or refuses to talk about the important stuff, this could be a big red flag that your relationship isn’t suitable to take to the next level. Remember that as a married couple, you’ll need to be ready to openly and honestly talk with each other about all kinds of important decisions that you’ll both need to play a hand in, such as having and raising a family, purchasing your first house together, and relocating for work, to name just a few. If you struggle to communicate well with each other about relationship and life decisions now, then you may find it’s even more difficult when you’re married.
Sign #6. You’re Always Talking About Getting Married:
With so many people today being rather commitment-shy, talking about getting married comfortably with each other is a sure sign that your relationship is ready to take to the next level. Even if you simply joke around, such as proposing with candy rings, knowing that your partner won’t shy away or get worried when you bring up tying the knot is a sure sign that you’re maybe ready to do it for real. Maybe you’ve discussed the type of wedding that you’ll have; perhaps you’ve even talked about the type of engagement rings that your partner would love you to get for her. If wedding conversations between the two of you are just as easy as talking about what you’d like for dinner, then maybe it’s time to get down on one knee and pop the question!
Sign #7. You Have Future Plans Together:
Do you involve your partner in almost all of your future plans? Maybe you have vacations planned together months in advance, or perhaps you even already have a joint bank account where you’re saving up to buy a home together for the two of you. If this is the case, then you are probably very comfortable and secure in your relationship; most people don’t make plans in advance with their partner if they’re not sure they will even still be in a relationship once they come around. If you know exactly what you’re going to do over the holiday season together and have a couple of vacations planned for this summer and the next, then you’re probably pretty sure that neither you nor your partner is going anywhere soon.
Sign #8. You Say ‘We’, Rather Than ‘I’:
Does every story that you tell somehow involve your partner? Even if you’ve done something alone, perhaps your partner still has a part to play in it somehow. When people invite you to places, do they always invite you as a couple, since they know that there’s no point in just inviting one of you without the other? Maybe you’ve been signing Christmas and birthday cards from the two of you for a while. Have your things become ‘ours’, rather than ‘mine’? If so, then you are already well into sharing your life together, and it could be the perfect time to propose.
Sign #9. You Trust Each Other Completely:
Lastly, one of the most important factors in a happy marriage is trust. Without being able to trust your partner 100%, you’re going to both have a very stressful relationship and you’ll always be questioning everything that they do and tell you. Do you know that your partner will always tell you the truth and trust her to be faithful to you at all times? Would it not bother you if she took a vacation or trip without you (except for that you’d miss her)? If so, you have a great basis for a happy marriage.
Do you think it’s time to pop the question? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.